1. What one thing did you do better today?
I did something inappropriate, something bad, something I regret. And I did it to a friend of mine which made it even worse. I took responsibility for my behaviour, apologised and said I was sorry.
2. Has doing so made you or someone else feel better?
Maybe not really because feeling bad for what I did was still more powerful than feeling proud to at least have the guts to say sorry.
3. Has it brought any new realisations?
Self-discovery is a life long journey and I believe having the ability to recognise our own mistakes is important. I still sometimes struggle with differentiating between feelings of shame and guilt. Brene Brown put it into words perfectly and I still remember the moment I first heard it – Guilt is: “I did something bad”, shame is: “I am bad”. This time I tried to call deep on my courage, admit and acknowledge my mistake, deal with reasonable feelings of guilt and not apologise just in an automatic response but do so in a genuine, honest way. I hope it opened doors to forgiveness, from my friend and myself.