1. What one thing did you do better today?
I approached feelings of insecurity with self love and acceptance rather than a to-do list on how to perfect.
2. Has doing so made you or someone else feel better?
This time, I didn’t feel better right away. I actually felt worst at first. It was a greater challenge than I imagined.
3. Has it brought any new realisations?
You know how some mornings you wake up feeling particularly bad about yourself? For me it usually happens when I don’t feel good in my body and I don’t like what I see in the mirror. Today I had one of those mornings. I could name some reasons – a bad night of sleep and skipping yoga the day before – but the adult part of me knew those reasons should not be nearly as important as I allowed them to be. My usual way of dealing with insecurities is the opposite of accepting myself. It is to list all things I need to work on in order to perfect myself. I could come up with resolutions as if every day is New Years and failing them just as we do mid way through January. But then I remembered a post from @fem.si on how when looking at ourselves in the mirror instead of pointing out the wrinkles and eye bags and skin imperfections, we should admire the beauty and take extra time for self-care. So instead of looking away from the mirror, I looked at myself and thanked my body for being healthy. My eyes for giving me a chance to see the world in colors, my face for being versatile in expressing emotions as well as showing signs of a bad night of sleep. I am proud to say after this tough morning I do not have any new plans on how I will change my whole life. I did however go for a run today, took some time for yoga and made sure I drank enough water. Self-love and self-compassion don’t always come easy but the relationship we have with ourselves is probably the most important one so don’t forget to throw some kindness your way, especially when it seems like the hardest thing to do.