1. What one thing did you do better today?
I greeted anxiety but then said goodbye to it (for a moment) by letting go of wanting to control it.
2. Has doing so made you or someone else feel better?
Me, my mind and here’s hoping this post will be of consolation to someone else dealing with anxiety.
3. Has it brought any new realisations?
A quote by Hugh Prather says “My anxiety doesn’t come from thinking about the future but from wanting to control it.” Reading that along with the recent column by Aljosa Bagola starting with how besides the professional work we all do, we take on this unpaid and often unconsciously applied for job to control our lives, made me think of how anxiety is all about the never ending wish for control. It took me back to what my therapist once told me – the need for control shows up where there is a lack of trust. It is important to build trust in yourself, others and trust in life. Aljosa’s words reminded me we do not have control over what happens in the future, but we do however have in power to work on our relationship towards ourselves and the world. And that inspired me to greet my anxiety and then let it go instead of wanting to control it and force it to go away. What helped me doing so was simply admitting to myself I do sometimes struggle with it but then instead of going into victim mode, reminding myself I will take good care of myself and focused on being grateful for all I have. Anxiety is like quicksand – the harder we struggle to escape, the deeper we sink. So today instead of escaping, I showed up to myself with acceptance, empowerment and trust.